by alichava | Jan 20, 2026 | Organizing & Cleaning, Parenting
The start of a new year often brings an urge to reset. New plans, new structures, new intentions meant to carry us forward.
But meaningful resets rarely happen because the calendar changes. They happen when a chapter closes.
Our household reached one of those moments last week when our senior finished school. Over the past year, our daily systems quietly adjusted around that reality. Morning routines shifted. Carpools reconfigured themselves. Extra time appeared where it was most needed.
Those adjustments weren’t written down. They worked because everyone involved understood their role.
Now that the household has changed again, those systems no longer fit. What once created ease now needs to be rethought. The work ahead isn’t dramatic. It’s practical: noticing what has changed, naming what no longer applies, and redesigning routines so the household can function smoothly again.
This kind of reset is familiar in organizations as well. Teams adapt around people, roles, and constraints. Temporary workarounds become permanent. Informal systems carry real weight. When the context shifts, those systems either evolve — or begin to create friction.
January is a natural time to do this work, not because it demands reinvention, but because it offers a pause. A chance to ask:
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What systems were built for a situation that no longer exists?
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Where are we relying on arrangements that assumed a different set of people or capacities?
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What needs to be clarified now that circumstances have changed?
In households, this may mean redistributing responsibilities that were once absorbed quietly. In organizations, it often means revisiting processes that only worked because someone was compensating for them.
The goal of a reset isn’t efficiency for its own sake. It’s alignment. Systems should reflect current reality, not past convenience.
When routines are redesigned with intention, they stop requiring constant adjustment. They allow people — whether family members or colleagues — to step into their roles with clarity.
The best resets don’t announce themselves. They show up in smoother mornings, fewer reminders, and a renewed sense that the structure matches the life it’s meant to support.
That’s the work worth doing when a chapter ends — and another begins.
by alichava | Jan 15, 2026 | Parenting, Software & Apps, Tools
Yesterday was a reminder of how fragile some of our most relied-upon systems actually are.
A service outage meant text messages didn’t reliably come through. In practical terms, two-factor authentication codes never arrived. Accounts couldn’t be accessed. Work stalled — not because credentials were wrong, but because the delivery mechanism failed.
In theory, two-factor authentication increases security. In practice, when it depends on a single device and a single channel, it can introduce a different kind of vulnerability.
I use authenticator apps for many accounts. I also sometimes rely on text-based codes because they are quick and widely supported. But as anyone who uses internet-based phone numbers or travels internationally knows, SMS-based authentication isn’t always dependable — especially when services are disrupted or numbers don’t behave like traditional mobile lines.
What struck me most wasn’t just the inconvenience. It was the way the system forced a context switch.
Regaining access usually requires reaching for a phone, which immediately reintroduces notifications, messages, and ambient noise — even on days when active use is minimal. During yesterday’s outage, that reliance became more apparent. The device was checked repeatedly for codes that never arrived, while its battery continued to drain, highlighting how much background activity persists even without meaningful engagement.
There is growing research showing that mobile phone use fragments attention and increases cognitive load, particularly when interruptions are frequent and unplanned. The cost isn’t just momentary distraction; it’s the gradual erosion of sustained focus over time.
This is the deeper tension I keep coming back to.
We design security systems that assume constant device availability. At the same time, many of us are actively trying to be more intentional about how and when we use those devices — for focus, for presence, and for the ability to stay on task. The result is a system that protects accounts while quietly undermining attention.
This tension becomes even more pronounced for students and young adults.
College students studying abroad often lose access to U.S.-based phone numbers. Text-based authentication fails. Backup methods haven’t been configured. Account recovery becomes complicated precisely when independence is supposed to increase. What feels like a minor oversight at home turns into a significant barrier elsewhere.
At the same time, there is a growing movement toward more mindful and intentional phone use, not through bans, but through structure. Approaches that emphasize boundaries, awareness, and deliberate engagement — rather than constant availability — are increasingly recognized as sustainable ways to reduce habitual distraction. This broader conversation is grounded in data. Surveys indicate that Americans now spend more than five hours per day on their phones, and many express a desire to cut back on usage. Research also suggests that excessive smartphone use can disrupt memory and reduce focus, particularly when use becomes habitual rather than intentional. Among students and young adults, recent evidence links heavy smartphone use to both cognitive and psychosocial effects, underscoring how closely attention, emotional regulation, and technology use are intertwined.
A few years ago, we made a modest household decision: phones don’t belong at the dinner table.
It wasn’t about discipline or nostalgia. It was about protecting a narrow window of shared presence — time that didn’t need to be optimized, documented, or interrupted. That decision has held, even as work has changed. Even in environments that occasionally require rapid response, it’s usually possible to step away briefly. The result isn’t perfection. It’s intention.
When we need to plan — meals, schedules, logistics — we often start with tools that feel almost like we are still in last century: paper, a whiteboard, a pen. These tools do something deceptively powerful. They hold complexity without competing for attention. They allow multiple people to see, contribute, and adjust without pulling anyone into a private digital space. Only later do we translate that thinking into digital systems.
In Jewish tradition, intention matters. Kavanah is not only about what we do, but about how we structure the conditions that make meaningful action possible. Boundaries around time, space, and tools are not limitations; they are enablers. Paper planning at a table is not a rejection of technology. It is a way of saying: this moment deserves a different kind of container.
I’ve been thinking a lot about approaches that don’t involve banning devices, but contextualizing them:
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Verbalizing intention before picking up a phone (“I’m using this for one task.”)
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Setting aside regular device-free time — something Jewish life already models well with Shabbat.
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Using and actually honoring app time limits, especially for platforms designed to pull attention sideways.
From a systems perspective, this matters.
Protective mechanisms are not neutral. They shape behavior. They pull people across devices. They interrupt concentration. And they assume levels of infrastructure stability that don’t always exist, especially across borders, carriers, and time zones.
This isn’t an argument against two-factor authentication. It’s an argument for designing it with redundancy, context, and human behavior in mind — particularly for families and organizations preparing young adults for independence.
That reality became especially clear as our school reminded families that many seniors will be abroad over the next several months. College applications that rely on text-based two-factor authentication tied to U.S. phone numbers can create unexpected barriers, not only to receiving acceptances, but also to accessing critical financial aid and scholarship information at a pivotal moment in the decision-making process.
Security should protect access.
Security should protect access.
Good design should protect attention.
As phones increasingly function as authentication tools, communication devices, and attention hubs, the way we design security systems has consequences well beyond cybersecurity. We don’t need to choose between security and presence — but we do need to acknowledge the tradeoffs when we ignore how systems actually get used.
by alichava | Jan 13, 2026 | Cancer, Parenting
January has always carried a certain weight. A new calendar year brings reflection almost by default — a pause long enough to notice what has changed and what has endured.
This January feels more bittersweet than most.
It marks another year of clean bills of health following a January 2019 breast cancer diagnosis. The milestone is real, but understated. What it signifies most is not triumph, but continuity. Time has continued. Plans still extend forward. Life has retained its ordinary shape.
At the same time, we are reaching a turning point as parents. Our oldest is finishing high school this week.
Taken together, these moments have reframed what reflection looks like right now. Less about revisiting the past, and more about preparing for what comes next.
When children are young, parenting often centers on values and protection. As they approach independence, the focus narrows to something far more concrete: competence. Values still matter, of course. But they are carried forward through practice far more than through instruction. The unglamorous, necessary skills that allow life to function when familiar structures fall away.
How to make dinner.
How to pick up a prescription.
How to read and reconcile an account balance.
How to use money thoughtfully rather than impulsively.
How to track responsibilities, documents, and obligations — especially when living or traveling abroad.
These are not skills taught in a single lesson. They are absorbed through participation in systems: watching how things are handled, being invited into responsibility gradually, and learning that small oversights compound over time.
What we often call “adulting” is less about age than about infrastructure. Independence depends not on confidence alone, but on having reliable ways to orient oneself, financial, logistical, and organizational, when external guardrails disappear.
Survivorship has quietly influenced how I think about this handoff. When time continues, urgency fades, and clarity replaces it. The question becomes not “what if,” but “what needs to be solid before the next stage begins?”
January doesn’t demand reinvention here. It invites refinement. Strengthening the systems that will travel with our children when they leave home. Making sure responsibility feels familiar rather than performative.
Bittersweet moments often signal that something is ending. This one feels more like confirmation: that time is moving forward, and with it, the work of letting go, thoughtfully, deliberately, and with care.
by Ari Yares | May 26, 2025 | Recipes
As a parent of four, finding dinner solutions that are both delicious and stress-free is always the goal. And here in Potomac, Maryland, as the weather warms up and the evenings get busier with school and activities wrapping up, a hearty bowl of chili becomes an instant family favorite. This Classic Turkey Chili recipe has earned its spot as a true weeknight hero in our home for so many reasons!
What makes this chili stand out? First, it’s wonderfully mild, which is essential when you have a range of palates at the table, from toddlers to teenagers. Second, it’s incredibly freezer-friendly, making it a lifesaver for those chaotic evenings when cooking from scratch just isn’t an option.
Why Turkey Chili is a Family Favorite
Using ground turkey makes this chili a lighter option than traditional beef, while still delivering that satisfying, robust flavor. It’s packed with vegetables and beans, making it a wholesome meal that fills everyone up without being too heavy.
Parenting Tip: The Art of the One-Pot Meal
For busy parents, dishes like chili are pure gold. They require minimal cleanup (hello, one pot!), can simmer gently while you tackle homework or bedtime stories, and are often even better the next day. This frees up precious time for connection with your kids, rather than spending it scrubbing pots and pans. As a psychologist, I understand that reducing parental stress around mealtime directly benefits the entire family’s well-being.
Our Secret Ingredient for Depth (Optional but Recommended!)
I highly recommend adding a tablespoon of unsweetened cocoa powder to your chili. Trust me on this one! It doesn’t make the chili taste like chocolate; instead, it deepens the flavor profile, adds a wonderful richness, and gives it a more complex, slow-cooked taste without any extra effort. It’s a game-changer!
Classic Turkey Chili (Mild & Freezer-Friendly!)
Yields: 6–8 servings
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cook time: 30–35 minutes
Ingredients:
- 1 lb ground turkey
- 1 tbsp olive oil
- 1 medium onion, diced
- 1 bell pepper (any color), diced
- 2 cloves garlic, minced
- 1 (28 oz) can crushed tomatoes
- 1 (15 oz) can black beans, drained and rinsed
- 1 (15 oz) can kidney beans, drained and rinsed
- 1 tbsp chili powder
- 1 tsp ground cumin
- 1 tsp paprika
- Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
- Optional: 1 tbsp tomato paste (for extra richness)
- Optional: ½ tsp smoked paprika (for a subtle smoky flavor)
- Highly Recommended Optional: 1 tbsp unsweetened cocoa powder (for depth of flavor)
Instructions:
- Heat the olive oil in a large pot or Dutch oven over medium heat.
- Add the diced onion and bell pepper. Sauté for 5–6 minutes, or until they are softened.
- Add the minced garlic and cook for another 1 minute, until fragrant. Be careful not to burn the garlic.
- Add the ground turkey to the pot. Break it up with a spoon and cook until it is completely browned, about 8-10 minutes. Drain any excess fat if necessary.
- Stir in the crushed tomatoes, drained black beans, drained kidney beans, chili powder, cumin, paprika, salt, and pepper. If using, add the tomato paste, smoked paprika, and unsweetened cocoa powder now.
- Bring the chili to a gentle simmer. Reduce the heat to low, cover, and let it simmer for 25–30 minutes, stirring occasionally, allowing the flavors to meld.
- Taste the chili and adjust seasonings as needed. You might want a little more salt, pepper, or another dash of chili powder.
Freezing for Future Feasts
This chili freezes beautifully! Once cooled completely, divide the chili into individual portions or family-sized containers. Label and date them. It will keep well in the freezer for up to 3-4 months. Thaw overnight in the refrigerator and reheat gently on the stovetop or in the microwave.
Enjoy this comforting and easy Classic Turkey Chili – it’s a family favorite that truly delivers on taste and convenience!
by Ari Yares | May 17, 2025 | Recipes
We’re always looking for ways to get our kids involved in the kitchen, and as they get older, it’s fantastic to introduce them to more advanced techniques. This recipe for Roasted Brussels Sprouts in Balsamic Vinegar is not only a delicious and healthy side dish, but it’s also a perfect opportunity for older kids and teenagers to practice and hone their knife skills!
As a parent, I know that fostering independence and competence in the kitchen is a valuable life skill. And as a psychologist, I can tell you that mastering a new skill, like safely and effectively using a knife, can significantly boost a child’s confidence and sense of accomplishment. Plus, when they’re involved in preparing the food, they’re often more enthusiastic about trying it!
Why Brussels Sprouts are Great for Knife Skills Practice
Brussels sprouts offer a fantastic texture for practicing basic knife skills. They’re firm enough to provide resistance but not so hard that they’re frustrating to cut. The goal here isn’t necessarily perfectly uniform slices (though that’s a good aim!), but rather learning safe and controlled cutting techniques.
Parenting Tip: Knife Skills 101 for Older Kids
Before letting your older child tackle this recipe, make sure they understand basic knife safety:
- Always use a sharp knife: A sharp knife requires less pressure and is safer to control than a dull one.
- Keep fingers tucked: Teach them the “claw” grip for their non-cutting hand to keep their fingertips out of the way.
- Cut on a stable surface: Ensure the cutting board isn’t wobbly. A damp paper towel underneath can help.
- Focus and go slow: Encourage them to pay attention to what they’re doing and not rush.
- Carry knives safely: Always hold the knife with the blade pointing down when carrying it.
Start by demonstrating how to trim the ends off the Brussels sprouts and then how to halve or quarter them, depending on their size. Supervise them closely as they practice. This recipe is simple enough that they can focus on their knife work without being overwhelmed by too many steps.
Our Delicious Roasted Brussels Sprouts in Balsamic Vinegar
Yields: 4-6 servings
Prep time: 15 minutes (including chopping)
Cook time: 25-35 minutes
Ingredients:
- 1 ½ pounds Brussels sprouts, trimmed
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 2-3 tablespoons balsamic vinegar
- Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
Instructions:
- Preheat oven to 400°F (200°C). Line a baking sheet with parchment paper for easier cleanup.
- Get the Kids Involved (Knife Skills Practice!): Have your older child carefully halve or quarter the trimmed Brussels sprouts using safe knife techniques.
- In a large bowl, toss the cut Brussels sprouts with olive oil, balsamic vinegar, salt, and pepper until evenly coated.
- Spread the Brussels sprouts in a single layer on the prepared baking sheet.
- Roast1 for 25-35 minutes, or until the Brussels sprouts are tender, slightly caramelized, and browned, tossing halfway through.
- Serve immediately as a delicious and healthy side dish.
Flavor Variation: Roasted Brussels Sprouts with Honey & Garlic
For a sweeter and more aromatic twist, try this simple variation:
Ingredients:
- 1 ½ pounds Brussels sprouts, trimmed and halved or quartered
- 2 tablespoons olive oil
- 2-3 cloves garlic, minced
- 1-2 tablespoons honey
- Salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
Instructions:
- Preheat oven to 400°F (200°C) and line a baking sheet with parchment paper.
- Toss the cut Brussels sprouts with olive oil, minced garlic, salt, and pepper.
- Spread them in a single layer on the baking sheet.
- Roast for 20 minutes.
- Remove from the oven and drizzle with honey. Toss to coat.
- Return to the oven for another 5-10 minutes, or until the Brussels sprouts are tender and nicely caramelized.
- Serve warm.
This Roasted Brussels Sprouts recipe is a fantastic way to get older kids involved in the kitchen, build their confidence with knife skills, and create a delicious and healthy side dish the whole family can enjoy!
by Ari Yares | Apr 8, 2025 | Recipes
Finding versatile and satisfying meals that cater to everyone’s needs and dietary restrictions can sometimes feel like a puzzle. This easy Spinach or Broccoli Quiche has become a real winner in our family. It’s packed with wholesome goodness, simple to prepare, and can be enjoyed for breakfast, brunch, lunch, or even a light dinner.
As a busy parent, I love that this recipe is adaptable—you can easily swap the vegetables based on what you have on hand or what your family prefers. Plus, it makes two quiches—one for now and another to go in the freezer. As Passover approaches, having a delicious and compliant option is always a priority. That’s why we’ve included a fantastic crustless variation that utilizes cake meal instead of flour, making it perfect for the holiday!
The Beauty of Cottage Cheese & Veggies
This quiche gets its creamy base from cottage cheese, which is blended until smooth for a delightful texture. Adding spinach or broccoli (or a combination!) boosts nutrients and flavor. It’s a fantastic way to sneak in some extra veggies; even my pickier eaters enjoy it.
Tips for a Perfect Quiche (and Veggie Variations!):
- Drain Those Veggies! Whether you’re using spinach or broccoli (or any other moisture-rich vegetable like sautéed mushrooms or onions), make sure to drain them very well after cooking. Excess moisture can lead to a watery quiche. For frozen spinach or broccoli, thawing completely and then squeezing out the excess water is crucial.
- Blend for Smoothness: Blending the cottage cheese creates a smoother and more appealing texture for the quiche filling. A regular blender or an immersion blender works great for this.
- Cheese Choices: We often use Swiss or mozzarella cheese for its mild flavor and meltiness, but feel free to experiment with other cheeses like cheddar, Gruyere, or even a bit of crumbled feta for a different taste profile.
- Seasoning is Key: Don’t be shy about pepper and garlic! Adjust the seasonings to your liking. You can add other herbs like onion powder or a pinch of cayenne pepper for extra flavor.
- Pre-Baking the Crust (Traditional Version): Pre-baking the pie crust helps prevent a soggy bottom. Bake it for about 10-15 minutes before adding the filling. Make sure to poke a few holes in the crust to keep it from rising too much.
Our Go-To Spinach or Broccoli Quiche Recipe:
Yields: 2 quiches (9-inch pies) or one larger baking dish
Prep time: 20 minutes
Cook time: Approximately 1 hour
Ingredients (Traditional with Crust):
- 4 cups cottage cheese
- 2 (10-ounce) packages of frozen chopped spinach or broccoli, thawed and drained very well
- 6 large eggs or 12 egg whites, beaten
- 6 tablespoons all-purpose flour (or equivalent in bread crumbs)
- ½ pound (2 cups) shredded Swiss or mozzarella cheese
- Pepper and garlic powder to taste
- 2 (9-inch) pre-baked pie crusts
Instructions (Traditional with Crust):
- Preheat oven to 350°F (175°C).
- In a large bowl, mash the cottage cheese with a fork or blend it for a smoother consistency.
- Add the well-drained spinach or broccoli to the mashed cottage cheese.
- Stir in the beaten eggs (or egg whites), flour (or bread crumbs), shredded cheese, pepper, and garlic powder. Mix everything together thoroughly.
- Pour the mixture evenly into the two pre-baked pie crusts.
- Bake for approximately 1 hour or until the quiche is set and lightly golden brown.
- Let the quiches cool slightly before slicing and serving.
Passover Crustless Spinach or Broccoli Quiche Variation:
This variation eliminates the need for a crust, making it perfect for Passover. The cake meal helps to bind the ingredients.
Ingredients (Passover Crustless):
- 4 cups cottage cheese
- 2 (10-ounce) packages of frozen chopped spinach or broccoli, thawed and drained very well
- 6 large eggs or 12 egg whites, beaten
- 6 tablespoons cake meal
- ½ pound (2 cups) shredded Swiss or mozzarella cheese
- Pepper and garlic powder to taste
- Cooking spray (kosher for Passover)
Instructions (Passover Crustless):
- Preheat oven to 350°F (175°C). Grease two 9-inch pie dishes or a similar-sized baking dish with kosher for Passover cooking spray.
- In a large bowl, mash the cottage cheese with a fork or blend it for a smoother consistency.
- Add the well-drained spinach or broccoli to the mashed cottage cheese.
- Stir in the beaten eggs (or egg whites), cake meal, shredded cheese, pepper, and garlic powder. Mix everything together thoroughly.
- Pour the mixture evenly into the prepared baking dish(es).
- Bake for approximately 1 hour or until the quiche is set and lightly golden brown.
- Let the quiche cool slightly before slicing and serving.
Enjoy this versatile and delicious quiche – a wonderful addition to any meal, and a convenient and tasty option for Passover!
by Ari Yares | Apr 4, 2025 | Recipes
As we navigate the busy rhythm of family life here in Maryland, certain dishes consistently bring a sense of warmth and tradition to our table. Noodle Kugel is undoubtedly one of them. This sweet and custardy baked noodle dish is a staple for holiday meals, Shabbat gatherings, and those moments when we simply crave a comforting treat.
As a parent juggling work and family, I appreciate recipes that are relatively straightforward and can be adapted to different dietary needs. And having a delicious kugel that can be made kosher for Passover (with a few considerations for the noodles!) is a wonderful bonus as we look ahead to the upcoming holidays. Plus, I’m always exploring ways to make our beloved dishes a little healthier without compromising on flavor.
The Heart of the Kugel: Noodles and Creaminess
The beauty of this Cheese Kugel lies in the simple yet satisfying combination of sweet noodles enveloped in a rich, creamy custard. The cottage cheese provides a delightful texture and subtle tang, while the eggs and yogurt create a smooth and comforting base. It’s a classic for a reason!
Tips for a Perfect Kugel (and Adaptations!)
- Noodle Choice: For everyday baking, your favorite style of egg noodles will work beautifully – wide, medium, or fine. When preparing this for Passover, remember to look for egg noodles specifically labeled “kosher for Passover” in your grocery store’s kosher section. Keep in mind that the texture of these Passover noodles might differ slightly from traditional egg noodles.
- Sweetness Level: The amount of sugar in this recipe creates a lovely sweetness, but feel free to adjust it slightly to suit your family’s taste preferences.
- Vanilla Magic: Don’t omit the vanilla extract! It adds a crucial layer of warm and inviting flavor that beautifully complements the other ingredients.
- Butter vs. Margarine (and Healthier Swaps!): We often use margarine in our kugel, particularly given that this is one of few non-pareve sides we make. However, butter is certainly an option if you prefer its flavor. For those looking to make a slightly healthier kugel, you can substitute a portion of the butter or margarine with a combination of unsweetened applesauce and a neutral-flavored oil like canola or vegetable oil. A good starting point is to replace about half of the fat with equal parts applesauce and oil (for example, if the recipe calls for 1 ½ sticks of butter, try using ¾ stick of butter/margarine and ¼ cup applesauce plus ¼ cup oil). This substitution can help reduce saturated fat while maintaining a moist and delicious kugel.
- Mixing Matters: Ensure all your ingredients are thoroughly combined to create a smooth and evenly textured custard.
- Optional Enhancements: Feel free to personalize your kugel with delicious additions such as well-drained crushed pineapple, plump raisins, or a light sprinkle of ground cinnamon for added warmth.
Making it Kosher for Passover (Noodle Note is Key!)
When preparing this kugel for Passover, the most important adaptation is the selection of egg noodles. Be sure to use egg noodles that are certified “kosher for Passover.” As mentioned, the availability and texture of these may vary depending on your location and the time of year (especially as Passover approaches in the spring). Double-check the kosher certifications on all your ingredients, including cottage cheese and yogurt or sour cream, to ensure they meet your Passover standards.
Our Family’s Easy Cheese Kugel
Yields: 12-16 servings
Prep time: 20 minutes
Cook time: 50-60 minutes
Ingredients:
- 1 lb egg noodles (ensure they are kosher for Passover if making for the holiday)
- 1 1/3 cup sugar
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
- 1 ½ sticks (12 tablespoons) butter or margarine, melted (or substitute with applesauce and oil as described above)
- 2 lbs cottage cheese
- 9 large eggs
- ¾ cup plain yogurt or sour cream
- Optional additions: ¾ cup crushed pineapple (drained), ½ cup raisins
Instructions:
- Preheat your oven to 350°F (175°C). Grease a 9×13-inch baking dish.
- Cook the egg noodles according to the package directions until they are al dente. Drain them thoroughly.
- In a large mixing bowl, whisk together the sugar, vanilla extract, and melted butter or margarine (or your chosen healthier alternative).
- Add the cottage cheese, eggs, and yogurt or sour cream to the bowl. Mix everything together well until the mixture is smooth and creamy. A hand mixer can be helpful in achieving a smooth consistency.
- Gently fold the cooked and drained egg noodles into the creamy cheese mixture, ensuring they are evenly coated.
- If you’re using them, stir in the drained crushed pineapple and/or raisins.
- Pour the noodle mixture into the prepared baking dish, spreading it out evenly.
- Bake in the preheated oven for 50 to 60 minutes or until the top of the kugel is a beautiful golden brown and the center is set. You can check for doneness by inserting a knife into the center; it should come out mostly clean.
- Allow the kugel to cool slightly before slicing and serving. It’s delicious, served warm or at room temperature.
Enjoy this comforting and adaptable Sweet Noodle Kugel with your family and friends! It’s a dish that brings a touch of sweetness and tradition to any occasion.
by Ari Yares | Apr 4, 2025 | Recipes
In our house, we’re always looking for recipes that are not only delicious but also adaptable to different occasions and dietary needs. These Cottage Cheese Latkes (or some might call them pancakes!) have become a real favorite. They’re light and fluffy and have a subtle sweetness that makes them perfect for breakfast, brunch, or even a light lunch. And the best part? With a simple swap of flour for cake meal, they become a wonderful treat during Passover!
As a busy parent, I love that this recipe is quick to throw together, especially when using a blender. And having a delicious and satisfying option for Passover mornings (beyond just matza!) is always a welcome addition to our holiday menu. Plus, these freeze beautifully, making them a fantastic make-ahead option for busy weeks or holiday preparations.
The Magic of Cottage Cheese (and a Ripe Banana!)
Don’t let the name “latkes” fool you if you’re picturing traditional potato latkes. These are different! The cottage cheese adds a lovely richness and moisture, while the overripened banana contributes a natural sweetness and helps bind everything together. It’s a surprisingly delicious combination that even skeptical little ones often enjoy. As a psychologist, I know that introducing new flavors in familiar formats (like pancakes) can often be more successful with children.
Tips for Perfect Cottage Cheese Latkes (and Happy Kitchen Crew!)
- Embrace the Blender (If You Have One): For the smoothest batter with minimal lumps, a blender works wonders! Just toss all the wet ingredients in first, then add the dry ingredients, and blend until just combined. This is a great way to get kids involved (with supervision, of course!).
- Don’t Overmix: Whether you’re using a blender or mixing by hand, be careful not to overmix the batter. Overmixing can develop the gluten (or cake meal) too much, resulting in tougher latkes. Mix just until the ingredients are combined. A few small lumps are okay.
- Oil Temperature is Key: Make sure your oil is hot enough before adding the batter. It should shimmer gently. If it’s not hot enough, the latkes will absorb too much oil and become greasy.
- Don’t Crowd the Pan: Cook the latkes in batches, ensuring there’s enough space in the pan so they can cook evenly and brown nicely.
- Adjust Sweetness to Taste: If you prefer less sweet latkes, you can reduce the amount of sugar slightly. The ripeness of the banana will also affect the overall sweetness.
Making it Passover-Friendly
For Passover, simply substitute the all-purpose flour with cake meal. The rest of the ingredients remain the same! This simple swap allows you to enjoy a delicious and satisfying breakfast or brunch that adheres to Passover dietary laws.
Our Family’s Cottage Cheese Latkes (or Pancakes!)
Yields: Approximately 12-15 latkes (depending on size)
Prep time: 10 minutes
Cook time: 15-20 minutes
Ingredients:
- 3 large eggs
- 1 cup milk
- 1 cup cottage cheese
- 1 ½ cups all-purpose flour (or cake meal for Passover)
- 1 teaspoon baking powder
- ½ teaspoon salt
- 5 tablespoons sugar
- 1 overripened banana, mashed
- Oil for frying (vegetable or canola oil works well)
Instructions:
- Using a Blender (Optional): Combine the eggs, milk, cottage cheese, and mashed banana in a blender. Blend until smooth. Add the flour (or cake meal), baking powder, salt, and sugar. Blend briefly until just combined.
- Mixing by Hand: In a large bowl, whisk together the eggs, milk, and mashed banana. Stir in the cottage cheese. In a separate bowl, whisk together the flour (or cake meal), baking powder, salt, and sugar. Gradually add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients, mixing until just combined. Be careful not to overmix.
- Heat a thin layer of oil in a large skillet or griddle over medium heat until it shimmers gently.
- Pour ¼ cup of batter (or desired size) onto the hot skillet for each latke.
- Cook for 2-3 minutes per side or until golden brown and cooked through.
- Transfer the cooked latkes to a plate lined with paper towels to drain any excess oil.
- Repeat with the remaining batter, adding more oil to the skillet as needed.
- Serve warm. These latkes are delicious on their own or with your favorite toppings like fresh fruit, yogurt, a sprinkle of powdered sugar, or a drizzle of maple syrup.
Enjoy these versatile and delicious Cottage Cheese Latkes – a perfect addition to your breakfast, brunch, or Passover menu!
Freezing for Future Enjoyment
These cottage cheese latkes freeze exceptionally well, making them a fantastic make-ahead option.
Instructions for Freezing
- Cook the latkes according to the recipe and let them cool completely on a wire rack.
- Once cooled, arrange the latkes in a single layer on a baking sheet lined with wax paper or parchment paper.
- Place the baking sheet in the freezer for about 1-2 hours or until the latkes are frozen solid.
- Transfer the frozen latkes to freezer-safe bags or containers, separating layers with wax paper to prevent sticking. Label and date them.
- Frozen latkes will keep well in the freezer for up to 2-3 months.
- To Reheat: You can reheat the latkes in a toaster oven, a regular oven at a low temperature (around 300°F/150°C), or even briefly in a microwave. For the best texture, reheating in an oven or toaster oven is recommended.
by Ari Yares | Apr 4, 2025 | Uncategorized
Eggplant Parmesan is a dish that brings back so many comforting memories. The layers of tender eggplant, rich tomato sauce, and gooey melted cheese are simply irresistible. But when Passover rolls around, we need to get a little creative to enjoy our favorite dishes while adhering to kosher dietary laws.
That’s where this Passover Eggplant Parmesan recipe comes in! We’ve adapted the classic by using cake meal instead of flour for dredging and matza meal in place of breadcrumbs for that satisfying crispy coating. The result is a flavorful and satisfying dish that everyone at your Passover table will love, even those who aren’t usually fans of eggplant!
As a parent, I know how important it is to have familiar and comforting foods during holidays, especially when routines are a bit different. This recipe allows us to enjoy a beloved classic while staying true to our Passover traditions. And as a psychologist, I appreciate the sense of normalcy and comfort that familiar foods can provide, especially for children.
Making Eggplant Parmesan Passover-Friendly
The key to this recipe is the simple substitution of ingredients:
- Cake Meal: This finely ground cake flour substitute works perfectly for dredging the eggplant slices, creating a light coating that helps the matza meal adhere.
- Matza Meal: Instead of breadcrumbs, we use matza meal to create a crispy and textured coating for the eggplant.
Tips for Delicious Passover Eggplant Parmesan (and Happy Helpers!)
- Salting the Eggplant (Optional but Recommended): While not strictly necessary, salting the eggplant slices before coating them helps to draw out excess moisture, resulting in a less watery final dish. Simply slice the eggplant, sprinkle generously with salt, and let them sit in a colander for about 30 minutes. Then, rinse them well and pat them dry with paper towels. This is a great task for older kids to help with!
- Don’t Skimp on the Sauce: A flavorful tomato sauce is crucial for a delicious eggplant parmesan. Use your favorite homemade recipe or a good quality store-bought kosher for Passover sauce.
- Cheese Choices: We typically use mozzarella cheese for its melty goodness, but you can also add a layer of Parmesan cheese (make sure it’s kosher for Passover) for extra flavor.
- Layering is Key: Arrange the eggplant, sauce, and cheese in even layers to ensure every bite is a perfect combination of flavors and textures. This is another step where kids can lend a hand!
- Bake Until Golden and Bubbly: Don’t rush the baking process. You want the cheese to be melted and bubbly and the eggplant to be tender.
Our Passover Eggplant Parmesan Recipe
Yields: 6-8 servings
Prep time: 30 minutes (plus 30 minutes if salting eggplant)
Cook time: 45-55 minutes
Ingredients:
- 2 large eggplants, sliced into ½-inch thick rounds
- 1 teaspoon salt (plus more for salting eggplant, if using)
- ½ cup cake meal (kosher for Passover)
- 2 large eggs, lightly beaten
- 1 cup matza meal (kosher for Passover)
- ½ cup grated Parmesan cheese (kosher for Passover, optional)
- 1 cup olive oil, for frying
- 2 (24-ounce) jars kosher for Passover marinara sauce (or your favorite homemade)
- 1 ½ cups shredded mozzarella cheese (kosher for Passover)
- Fresh basil leaves, for garnish (optional)
Instructions:
- Prepare the Eggplant (Optional): If salting the eggplant, lay the slices in a single layer in a colander and sprinkle generously with salt. Let sit for 30 minutes. Rinse well and pat completely dry with paper towels.
- Preheat oven to 375°F (190°C).
- Set up three shallow dishes: one with the cake meal, one with the beaten eggs, and one with the matza meal mixed with the grated Parmesan cheese (if using).
- Dredge each eggplant slice in the cake meal, then dip it in the beaten egg, and finally coat it thoroughly with the matza meal mixture, pressing gently to help it adhere.
- Heat the olive oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Working in batches, fry the eggplant slices until golden brown on both sides, about 3-4 minutes per side. Remove the fried eggplant and drain on paper towels. You may need to add more olive oil to the skillet as you go.
- Spread a thin layer of marinara sauce on the bottom of a 9×13-inch baking dish.
- Arrange a layer of the fried eggplant slices over the sauce.
- Spoon more marinara sauce over the eggplant, followed by a layer of mozzarella cheese.
- Repeat layers of eggplant, sauce, and mozzarella cheese until all the eggplant is used, ending with a layer of sauce and mozzarella cheese (and Parmesan, if using).
- Bake in the preheated oven for 45-55 minutes, or until the cheese is melted, bubbly, and lightly golden brown, and the sauce is heated through.
- Let the eggplant parmesan rest for a few minutes before slicing and serving. Garnish with fresh basil leaves, if desired.
Enjoy this delicious and comforting Passover Eggplant Parmesan with your family! It’s a wonderful reminder that we can still enjoy our favorite dishes while observing the traditions of Passover.
(Optional) Broiler “Fried” Eggplant for a Lighter Option
If you prefer a lighter version of this dish or want to avoid deep-frying, you can “oven fry” the eggplant using your broiler. This method won’t achieve the exact same level of crispiness as pan-frying, but it still provides a nicely browned exterior.
Instructions for Broiler “Frying”:
- Follow steps 1-4 of the original recipe to slice and (optionally) salt the eggplant, and then dredge the slices in cake meal, egg, and matza meal mixture.
- Preheat your broiler to medium-high heat. Line a large baking sheet with parchment paper or foil. Lightly spray the baking sheet with olive oil spray.
- Arrange the coated eggplant slices in a single layer on the prepared baking sheet. Make sure they are not overlapping. Lightly spray the tops of the eggplant slices with olive oil spray.
- Place the baking sheet under the preheated broiler. Broil for 3-5 minutes per side or until the eggplant is golden brown and slightly tender. Watch them carefully to prevent burning, as broilers can heat very quickly. Depending on your oven, you may need to adjust the distance between the baking sheet and the broiler element.
- Once browned, remove the eggplant from the broiler and proceed with layering the eggplant parmesan as described in steps 6-11 of the main recipe.
Using the broiler method reduces the amount of oil needed for this recipe, making it a slightly healthier option while still delivering a delicious Passover Eggplant Parmesan. Keep in mind that the texture of the eggplant might be a little softer compared to pan-frying.
by Ari Yares | Apr 4, 2025 | Recipes
Passover preparations can feel like a marathon, but having a few reliable make-ahead recipes in your arsenal can make all the difference. This Passover Potato Gnocchi has become one of our go-to dishes. It’s surprisingly simple to make with potato starch instead of flour, freezes beautifully, and can be transformed into a quick and satisfying one-pan meal that even the pickiest eaters will enjoy.
As a busy parent, I’m always looking for ways to streamline mealtime, especially during the holidays. This gnocchi recipe not only fits the bill for Passover (being completely chametz-free) but also offers a wonderful opportunity to get the kids involved in a hands-on cooking project.
The Beauty of Potato Starch Gnocchi
If you’re used to traditional gnocchi made with flour, you might be curious about using potato starch. The result is a slightly different texture – often a bit softer and more delicate – but absolutely delicious and perfectly acceptable (and traditional for many!) during Passover. The addition of egg helps bind everything together beautifully.
Tips for Gnocchi Success (and Happy Helpers!)
- Potato Prep: You can peel the potatoes if you prefer smoother gnocchi, but honestly, leaving the skins on adds a bit of rustic charm and saves time! Just make sure they are well-scrubbed. As a psychologist, I find that letting go of minor aesthetic details in favor of efficiency can reduce stress for everyone.
- Work While Warm: It’s best to mash the potatoes while they are still warm. This makes them easier to work with. Be careful, though, and let them cool enough for little hands to help safely.
- Don’t Overwork the Dough: Just like with traditional gnocchi, overmixing the dough will result in tough gnocchi. Mix until everything is just combined.
- Dust Generously: Potato starch is your friend! Dust your work surface and your hands generously to prevent the dough from sticking.
- Shaping Fun: This is a great task for kids! They can help roll the dough into ropes and cut it into small pieces. Don’t worry if they aren’t perfectly uniform – the imperfections add to the homemade charm. As a Jewish parenting coach, I encourage embracing the unique contributions of each child.
Passover Potato Gnocchi
Yields: Approximately 4-6 servings
Prep time: 30 minutes
Cook time: 20-25 minutes (plus roasting time if making the one-pan dish)
Ingredients:
- 2 pounds russet potatoes
- 1 teaspoon salt, plus more for cooking water
- 1 large egg, lightly beaten
- Approximately 1 cup potato starch, plus more for dusting
Instructions:
- Scrub the potatoes well. Place them in a pot and cover with cold, salted water. Bring to a boil and cook until the potatoes are very tender when pierced with a fork, about 20-25 minutes.
- Drain the potatoes well and let them cool slightly until you can handle them comfortably.
- Mash the warm potatoes thoroughly using a potato ricer or a regular masher.
- Spread the mashed potatoes out on a clean work surface and sprinkle with 1 teaspoon of salt. Let them cool slightly more.
- Make a well in the center of the mashed potatoes and pour in the beaten egg.
- Start incorporating the egg into the potatoes. Gradually begin adding the potato starch, a little at a time, mixing gently with your hands until a soft, slightly sticky dough forms. You may not need to use all of the potato starch. Be careful not to overmix.
- Lightly dust your work surface with potato starch. Divide the dough into several portions. Roll each portion into a long rope about ¾ inch thick.
- Cut the ropes into 1-inch pieces. At this point, you can leave them as they are or create ridges by gently pressing each piece against a fork with your thumb and rolling it off.
- To Cook Fresh Gnocchi: Bring a large pot of salted water to a gentle boil. Drop the gnocchi in batches into the boiling water. They will sink to the bottom and then rise to the surface when they are cooked (this takes just a few minutes). Once they float, let them cook for another 30 seconds to a minute. Remove them with a slotted spoon and transfer them to a serving dish or pan.
- To Freeze Gnocchi: Follow the freezing instructions below. To cook frozen gnocchi, you can drop them directly into boiling water (they may take a little longer to rise) or add them to your one-pan roasting dish.
Enjoy your homemade Passover Potato Gnocchi!
Freezing for Future Feasts
One of the biggest advantages of this gnocchi is how well it freezes. This allows you to prepare a large batch ahead of Passover and have a quick and easy meal option ready whenever you need it.
Instructions for Freezing
- Once you’ve shaped the gnocchi, lay them out in a single layer on baking sheets lined with wax paper (parchment paper also works). Ensure the gnocchi aren’t touching each other to prevent them from sticking together as they freeze.
- Place the baking sheets in the freezer for at least 1-2 hours or until the gnocchi are frozen solid.
- Once frozen, transfer the gnocchi from the baking sheets into freezer-safe plastic containers or zip-top bags. Label and date them.
- Frozen gnocchi will keep well in the freezer for up to 2-3 months.
Our Go-To One-Pan Passover Dinner
We often serve this gnocchi in a super simple, kid-friendly one-pan dish. It’s perfect for a busy weeknight during Passover!
Ingredients:
- Frozen or fresh Passover Potato Gnocchi
- Kosher for Passover hot dogs, cut into bite-sized pieces
- 1 pound Brussels sprouts, trimmed and halved (or your favorite roasting vegetable like broccoli florets or cubed carrots)
- Olive oil spray
- Salt
- Pepper
Instructions:
- Preheat your oven to 400°F (200°C).
- In a large bowl, toss the Brussels sprouts (or other vegetables) with a generous spray of olive oil, salt, and pepper. Spread them in a single layer on a large baking sheet.
- If using frozen gnocchi, you can add them directly to the baking sheet along with the hot dog pieces. If using fresh gnocchi, you can add them for the last 15-20 minutes of cooking.
- Spray the gnocchi and hot dogs with olive oil and sprinkle with a little more salt and pepper.
- Roast for 20-30 minutes, or until the gnocchi are slightly golden brown and heated through, and the vegetables are tender and slightly caramelized. If adding fresh gnocchi later, roast the vegetables and hot dogs for 10-15 minutes first, then add the gnocchi and continue roasting.
- Serve immediately and enjoy!
This Passover Potato Gnocchi is a versatile and family-friendly recipe that simplifies mealtime during a busy holiday. Whether you serve it on its own or in our easy one-pan dinner, it’s sure to be a hit!
